A Memoir of (my) Body

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"With the bracing candor, vulnerability, and power that have made her one of the most admired writers of her generation, Roxane explores what it means to learn to take care of yourself: how to feed your hungers for delicious and satisfying food, a smaller and safer body, and a body that can love and be loved - in a time when the bigger you are, the smaller your world becomes." --
Publisher: New York, New York :, Harper, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers,, 2017
Edition: First edition
Copyright Date: ♭2017
ISBN: 9780062362605
Characteristics: 1 online resource (320 pages)
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StaceyM_KCMO Feb 07, 2018

Powerful. Insightful. Haunting. Raw. Brave. All these words describe the beautiful complexity of these essays on what it means to “take up space” in a world that prefers our bodies NOT to do just that. Lovely prose and short impactful essays that will leave you with ...well, food for thought. A must-read for anyone who has ever grappled with body image, as well as those of us who have judged others because of their weight or personal appearance.

Jan 02, 2018

So wonderful! And it gets continually better and better. Couldn't put it down. Read it straight through. It gave me some great insites into my own life and past. Will definitely be checking out more from her.

Nov 29, 2017

One minute I loved this book. The next minute I hated the book. I’m overweight….my doctor considers me on the edge of morbidly obese. It took those words for me to take action and work on getting my body healthy. But I was never sexually assaulted as a child, so I read with interest how this nightmare impacted Gay’s life. If nothing else it makes me look differently at really overweight people, who may be harboring the same personal history as Gay. It took courage to write this book, courage I don’t have.

Nov 27, 2017

Roxane Gay can write about the most horrendous situations in plain, beautiful prose that keeps you reading. In this collection of short stories (most of which appeared earlier in literary magazines), she introduces you to a range of women from different backgrounds, ethnicities, and ages who face difficult circumstances in their lives. Some manage to cope with their situations while others do not. The most memorable stories for me were Difficult Women, FLORIDA, and Noble Things. Difficult women describes four female stereotypes -- loose, frigid, crazy, and mothers. FLORIDA describes the "upstairs" and "downstairs" lives of people who live in a gated community. Noble Things is about life in America after the second secession of the American South. A wall now divides life among the southern and northern states. Some stories were easier to read than others but all can lead to a lot of thought and discussion.

Oct 11, 2017

What happened to this woman should never happen. To anyone. Whether or not I cared for the book and her writing is irrelevant. I'm hoping that, now that this author is successful in her work, she will use what she's earned to find a competent and compassionate counselor - one in whom she can begin to place her trust. No one can, or should need to, work through the trauma she has experienced alone. The results of needing/endeavoring to do so are all too visible in this memoir.

Oct 04, 2017

A very brave book. I am in awe of, and inspired by, her honesty.

Oct 03, 2017

I enjoyed it much more then I thought I would. Just as she goes over the edge with her life and ideas she captured me again. I learned from her experiences.

Chapel_Hill_KatieJ Sep 27, 2017

Roxane Gay takes a fascinating look at the way bodies are perceived in our culture, and her own experiences that have affected her body, self-worth, and health. After she is raped by a group of boys at boarding school, she turns to food for comfort and to make herself unattractive. There are so many troubling aspects of the book, but it’s an important book to read. She discusses the way she takes up space in the world, and how she is always conscious of it. She talks about how society views women’s bodies, her family’s reactions to her weight, the difference between obesity and morbid obesity, and how she is perceived in the world.

LPL_PolliK Sep 26, 2017

"Hunger" is a heartbreaking, brutal and courageous account of the violent gang rape that triggered Gay’s need gain large amounts to weight, to become bigger and bigger, to hide and cushion herself from the world outside. The rape is a defining experience that divides her life into "before" and "after". Gay's memoir weaves together this trauma and her inability to share it with her family with her experiences today living in a black, fat, queer body that is reviled, that isn’t accounted for, that is inconvenient. This is a book that you may have to experience slowly and revisit to take in the full impact. Gay writes with vulnerability, but without fear.

Sep 23, 2017

Holy Hell. Do you ever read something so close to your own experience and it just brings you to tears because finally someone writes exactly how you feel? Roxane Gay is an impeccable writer with a beautiful talent for the written word and she brought, I imagine, thousands of people's experiences with their bodies to the page. When you read Hunger, it is as if she is right here whispering these laments and cries right into you. This book, she points out very quick, is not a “oh woe is me” type of book, it is a series of ‘vignettes’- little moments and comments on her body and it’s experiences. From the moments of her sexual trauma in her early years, all the way to her life as an adult in her 40s and dealing with what it is like to live in a morbidly obese body in our world.

"I was a body, one requiring repair, and there are many of us in this world, living such utterly human bodies.”

Her words are the type that just seethe and burn into you that you just want to underline, highlight, or copy down some of her passages. I will say it takes a lot to make me cry or tear up when I read books, and this one did it. Before I explain, I will admit that my experiences as a plus-size individual is nowhere near as difficult or problematic as the experiences Roxane describes in her memoir. I am very lucky that I don’t have to worry about: sitting in a booth or table at a restaurant, whether or not I’ll break the legs of chairs, break a sweat or pass out from standing too long, the list goes on. MY experience is a privileged one to the one expressed here in this book.

"I’ve been that girl, too big for the clothes in the store, just trying to find something, anything, that fits, while also dealing with the commentary of someone else who means well but can’t help but make pointed, insensitive comments. To be that girl in a clothing store is to be the loneliest girl in the world."

The one ‘chapter’ or passage that stopped me dead was a time where Roxane describes being in a clothing store in the dressing room. She witnesses a young girl being scolded and humiliated by her thin mother. By no means have I ever had to experience my own mother making me feel guilty for the body I already had guilt for making big. But there is nothing like the experience that is a young individual just trying to so hard to fit in; then being faced with the predicament of squeezing into the biggest size of jeans in that section, praying they fit, and not having the words to tell your anticipative mother standing outside the dressing room that… they don’t fit.

This memoir will stick with me for sure, and I would gladly place it in the hands of those who want to read this type of subject, but also those who (in my opinion) need to be educated on the experience of sexual abuse victims (Roxane insists on victim- not survivor) and the potential outcomes of those people. I also would place this book in the hands of someone who thinks they know the ‘fat experience’ when they really only know the surface. I consider myself one of these individuals- I thought I knew everything just from my own perspective as a plus size girl- but in reality there is so much more.

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Sep 23, 2017

"I’ve been that girl, too big for the clothes in the store, just trying to find something, anything, that fits, while also dealing with the commentary of someone else who means well but can’t help but make pointed, insensitive comments. To be that girl in a clothing store is to be the loneliest girl in the world."

Sep 23, 2017

"I was a body, one requiring repair, and there are many of us in this world, living such utterly human bodies.”

Aug 12, 2017

It is startling to realize that even Oprah, a woman in her early sixties, a billionaire and one of the most famous women in the world, isn't happy with herself, her body. That is how pervasive damaging cultural messages about unruly bodies are -- that even as we age, no matter what material successes we achieve, we cannot be satisfied or happy unless we are also thin.

Aug 12, 2017

This is what girls are taught -- that we should be slender and small. We should not take up space. We should be seen and not heard, and if we are seen, we should be pleasing to men, acceptable to society. And most women know this, that we are supposed to disappear, but it's something that needs to be said, loudly, over and over again, so that we can resist surrendering to what is expected of us.

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