This Is How You Lose Her

This Is How You Lose Her

Large Print - 2013
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A collection of stories that explores the power of love in all its forms, obsessive love, illicit love, fading love, maternal love, as it is shaped by passion, betrayal, and the echoes of intimacy.
Publisher: Detroit : Wheeler Publishing, 2013, c2012
Edition: Large print ed
ISBN: 9781410454454
Branch Call Number: LT DIA
Characteristics: 259 p. (large print) ;,23 cm


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Short stories with love and heartache

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Dec 11, 2020

Take your partner for granted and be dishonest about the important stuff - that will definitely justify her in leaving your sorry ass - lessons from "This Is How You Lose Her." I wanted to like this collection of short stories more, but only giving 2-2.5 stars. Why? Because all but one story featured Yunior. Yunior and his older brother Rafa are entertaining, especially seeing their childhood in "Invierno" which is the one story to include their father. However, all their skirt-chasing, womanizing, juvenile behavior became redundant after their third story. First book by Junot Díaz I've read, reminds me of a Dominican Charles Bukowski - all the fu*#!ng/getting stoned/complaining about women. Maybe not a fair comparison... I'll have to read Oscar Wao to make up my mind.

For me "Otravida, Otravez" is the best of the bunch. This story is told from a woman's perspective, highlighting emotional challenges of immigrants living far from their homeland. This touching story of work, love, compromise and survival saved this collection from being forgettable. I plan to read "Otravez" once more before I return it to my library.

Aug 13, 2018

Trashy, uninspiring.

RogerDeBlanck Jul 27, 2018

This Is How You Lose Her is another blast of ingenious storytelling from the talented Junot Diaz. In 1997 he walloped the literary landscape and established his name as a meteoric presence with Drown, a collection of gritty stories centering on Dominican American immigrants and culture. Not until a decade later did he finish his next work, the acclaimed novel The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, which recounts in ecstatic prose the tragedies that befall a first generation Dominican American family. With this collection of stories, Diaz continues to explore his trademark themes of hardship, loss, failure, and resilience in the lives of Dominican American characters.

Each of the stories focuses on individuals confronting tough times and the consequences of their choices, especially in regards to love and relationships. The central figure and narrator for several of the pieces is the incomparable Yunior. His voice ranks among the most distinctive and inimitable in modern literature. Through his perspective, Diaz gives us an uncensored glimpse into the lives of a community of men and women battling through the riotous terrain of love from both the emotional and carnal side. Diaz does not hold back with his oftentimes salacious details of love. He navigates the perils of sex and relationships with complete honesty and openness. He is a genius of language, most notably with the peerless voice of Yunior. Diaz’s literary abilities allow him to employ a poetical style that places him in a league of his own. His prose is like wildfire, tearing through everything and leaving you unsettled.

With some of America’s literary giants such as Morrison, McCarthy, and Doctorow now in the twilight of their careers, I feel comfortable with Diaz blazing the trail for the next generation of great writers to follow. We can only hope Diaz continues to produce work in the decades ahead that resonates with the same uproarious energy for life as he does in This Is How You Lose Her. I can hardly wait for his next work.

Sep 13, 2017

my sister has that book and she wants to check it out.

Jul 25, 2017

Diaz grapples with toxic masculinity, writing about love, mistakes, and the unflattering and unfair things people do when they're led by emotion. For some readers, the sordid-macho perspective is too much of a turn off. That's fair. There is, though, a complex and perhaps necessary confrontation of cultural and sexual norms. Nevertheless, Diaz manages to craft a vivid,animated-- and of course funny-- story, as one would expect.

ArapahoeStaff19 Sep 09, 2016

Hide your sisters and daughters, it's the return of Yunior. It's almost as if he swaggered straight out of The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, taking center stage in his own collection of disastrous love stories. Diaz does brilliant job warming you up to this intelligent, tender hearted, electric oversexed world of Dominican trouble... We meet Yunior's lovers through individual stories that are heart wrenching, hilarious, and absolutely deplorable. And yet, we still like him. A painfully fun read.

Jul 11, 2016

Diaz uses common vernacular in beautiful rhythm that causes his writing to be raw and visceral. This book is sensual and the stories add depth to each other, as well as his other work. This is the first Diaz book I've read and I will definitely be reading more.

TSCPL_ChrisB Jun 04, 2016

It's easy to dismiss Diaz as a womanizing jerk given the subject matter of his novels. This one is no different. I wasn't sure what to think of Diaz myself until I met him. And once you can separate the author from the character, it's much easier to enjoy the wonderful writing. This Is How You Lose Her is perhaps his best.

May 28, 2015

I cannot get enough of Junot Diaz's writing. Emotional, simple, powerful, raw.

Dec 06, 2014

If you are in the mood for male angst. Unique voice, great accomplishment.

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TSCPL_ChrisB Jun 06, 2016

And that's when I know it's over. As soon as you start thinking about the beginning, it's the end.

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