How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

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"This parenting book actually made me a better parent."--Lydia Kiesling, The New York Times

From #1 New York Times bestselling authors, the ultimate "parenting bible" ( The Boston Globe )--a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child.

This bestselling classic by internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children includes fresh insights and suggestions, as well as the author's time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:

· Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
· Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
· Engage your child's willing cooperation
· Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
· Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
· Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
· Resolve family conflicts peacefully

Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, Faber and Mazlish's down-to-earth, respectful approach makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
Publisher: New York :, Scribner,, 2012
Edition: 30th anniversary edition
ISBN: 9781451663884
Branch Call Number: 649 .1 FAB 2012
Characteristics: xiv, 345 pages :,illustrations ;,21 cm


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Feb 26, 2019

I love this book, practical advice that is easy to memorize and incorporate in your daily life with children.

Dec 31, 2017

I recently read the sequel to this book (written by the author's daughter), How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen... So, much of the information and many of the suggestions in this book were quite familiar. In all honesty, the main reason I read this one too was to remind myself of what I knew it would say. Because sometimes toddlers drive you a little nuts.

I would highly recommend either or both books to parents looking for a combination of psychology and common sense in raising children. I appreciate the authors' matter of fact tone and complete lack of condescension. I like that they provide lots of different stories and examples. The cartoons are a nice way to contrast different ways of interacting with kids. And I appreciate that the books acknowledge that nobody's ever going to be perfect all the time and that we all get many 'second chances' if things don't go well the first time.

Dec 11, 2017

Very practical, easy to read, step by step guides. Love the cartoon illustrations and also the real life examples from actual parents.

ontherideau Jun 18, 2014

This book stands the test of time- it has been reccommended for years and is still relevant

Feb 29, 2012

This is a great book! Other than some parenting advice that I do not agree with (going against natural/aware/attached parenting) I really found the advice helpful and interesting.

The specific topic I didn't agree with was manipulating children to our goals/desires. I think it was a small passage in there, tucked away in one chapter, but it still made me upset to read it, and I don't believe that parenting in the manner of trying to CONTROL your children will result in anything but rebellious behaviours.

The rest of the book was fabulous, as it really helped parents understand where their children's underlying needs were coming from, reminding them that the behavior usually comes from an emotion need or release.

givenmydruthers Jan 25, 2012

This 30-year-old book has changed my life. I'd recommend it to absolutely anyone with kids of any age. It's very accessible, if slightly outdated in places, and it's chock-full of practical tips that can be used immediately. My 3 year old daughter isn't particularly difficult, but I've gone from an average of one time-out a day to virtually nil. I honestly feel she's becoming a more confident and capable child, and I feel far better prepared to cope with the regular upsets of life with children. I read this amid a binge of five self-help parenting books, and this was by far the most helpful on a practical level.


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Aug 30, 2016

The tension was excruciating. She said, “He’s a stubborn one!” Still no response. A moment later he finally cried—that

Aug 30, 2016

It’s always a great pleasure to hear from our readers, but the letters that are most gratifying are those where people share how they actually used the principles in How to Talk

Aug 30, 2016

“Why can’t you be more like your brother? He always gets his work done ahead of time.” “Lisa has such beautiful table manners. You’d never catch her eating with her fingers.” “Why

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