Far From the Tree

Far From the Tree

Parents, Children and the Search for Identity

Book - 2012
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From the National Book Award-winning author of the "brave...deeply humane...open-minded, critically informed, and poetic" ( The New York Times ) The Noonday Demon , comes a book about the consequences of extreme personal and cultural differences between parents and children.

From the National Book Award-winning author of The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression comes a monumental new work, a decade in the writing, about family. In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so.

Solomon's startling proposition is that diversity is what unites us all. He writes about families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, multiple severe disabilities, with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal, as are the triumphs of love Solomon documents in every chapter.

All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves. Drawing on forty thousand pages of interview transcripts with more than three hundred families, Solomon mines the eloquence of ordinary people facing extreme challenges. Whether considering prenatal screening for genetic disorders, cochlear implants for the deaf, or gender reassignment surgery for transgender people, Solomon narrates a universal struggle toward compassion. Many families grow closer through caring for a challenging child; most discover supportive communities of others similarly affected; some are inspired to become advocates and activists, celebrating the very conditions they once feared. Woven into their courageous and affirming stories is Solomon's journey to accepting his own identity, which culminated in his midlife decision, influenced by this research, to become a parent.

Elegantly reported by a spectacularly original thinker, Far from the Tree explores themes of generosity, acceptance, and tolerance--all rooted in the insight that love can transcend every prejudice. This crucial and revelatory book expands our definition of what it is to be human.
Publisher: New York : Scribner, c2012
ISBN: 9780743236713
Branch Call Number: 362 .4083 SOL
Characteristics: ix, 962 p. ;,25 cm


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LoganLib_JennyI Feb 06, 2019

An emotional book on every level whether you are a parent-to-be, parent, teacher or grandparent. Through interviews with family members backed by extensive, scientific research, Solomon paints a compassionate and brutally honest picture of the lives of the children and their families.
Difference is difficult but that doesn't mean it isn't good for us as individuals and a community or world as a whole.
Just as some social taboos of bygone centuries are unacceptable in modern times, Solomon gently reminds us that by accepting others where they are - instead putting family, friends and strangers in "boxes" - we can slowly learn from these brave families' lives.

Oct 15, 2018

Massive, heavily researched, and provocative book about childhood by writer/professor Andrew Solomon. He divides his chapters by subject, focusing on children who are "different," although Solomon questions normative categories, including homosexuality, children born of rape, children who turn to crime, and "disabled" (Again, the category itself is challenged.) children. There are a lot of case studies, so it's not overly academic. It is, however, a very long book, coming in at 700 pages (plus notes). Part of a recent list of best books of the 21st century.

SCL_Justin Oct 17, 2017

When people have kids there are aspects of continuity from generation to generation, and Solomon refers to these as vertical identities. What this book is about though, is horizontal identities, where a child is very different from the generations that preceded her, and often from everyone else in the household. He looked at 10 different types of these horizontal identities (deaf, autistic, gifted, transgender and more) through tonnes and tonnes of family stories. It was very effective and empathy-building. Very recommended.

ArapahoeAnnaL Aug 09, 2017

Written with wisdom and compassion. For those whose children struggle with issues different from their parents - you are not alone.

Jul 12, 2017

As a teacher, I strongly suggest that every educator read this book.

Jul 12, 2014

The prose in the book is excellent. The interviews with parents and children are emotionally gripping.This is a book that everyone should read as it relates to identity, something everyone strives to achieve. Although the author does mention it, this collection of stories is non random and therefore this is not a true scientific review of people with the corresponding conditions. Nonetheless this book is an exceptional read.

Jan 09, 2014

This book is very long, but Solomon's prose is gripping, and he has done extensive research and interviewing. He is a big thinker who strives for fairness. I learned something on every page. Highly recommended.

Jan 01, 2014

Andrew Solomon is the most popular guest Steve Paikin's The Agenda has ever had; the most viewers. He is a delight and obviously extremely intelligent. I am waiting for The Agenda to have him again as a guest. You can probably play yourself a clip on You Tube

tlctlc Nov 01, 2013

Jill Shumaker suggested I read this book

Aug 12, 2013

If you, or someone you care about, has an individual in the family who does not fit the "family mold". (e.g. gay, autistic, etc.) please read this book and pass it on. It is alos a "must read" for professionals who work with/for familes of exceptional children or adults.

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